From a657746dc08f70a4bcfea9058b01e60f004bc82d Mon Sep 17 00:00:00 2001 From: =?UTF-8?q?Maxime=20=E2=80=9Cpep=E2=80=9D=20Buquet?= Date: Mon, 21 Mar 2022 15:57:21 +0100 Subject: [PATCH] no-pictures: english MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset=UTF-8 Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit Signed-off-by: Maxime “pep” Buquet --- content/posts/no-pictures.md | 24 +++++++++++++----------- 1 file changed, 13 insertions(+), 11 deletions(-) diff --git a/content/posts/no-pictures.md b/content/posts/no-pictures.md index f149840..2b4fe10 100644 --- a/content/posts/no-pictures.md +++ b/content/posts/no-pictures.md @@ -5,29 +5,31 @@ tags: [consent, norms] --- People often take photographs for granted. It does seem obvious in our society -that one likes to appear with their friend on Facebook, TikTok, what have you. +that people like to appear with their friend on Facebook, TikTok, and what have +you. Early on I started telling people I didn't want to have my picture taken. It -has never really been clear why, and to me either to be honest. It might have -been out of shyness -- trait that is still ever so present -- or because I -didn't like the looks of me on them, or any other reason. But I kept to it. +has never really been clear why, not even to myself to be honest. It might have +been out of shyness -- a trait that is still ever so present -- or because I +didn't like the way I look in them, or perhaps some other reason. But I kept +telling them. -Growing up I started fiercely advocating for privacy and so this obviously +As I grew up I started fiercely advocating for privacy and so this obviously made it up the list of reasons. How would I know what people having access to this picture would do with the information that I was at a specific place at a -specific moment, or simply with my image. And I kept telling people not to -take pictures of me. +specific moment, or what they would do with the image. And I kept telling +people not to take pictures of me. And despite saying all that, people kept teasing me about it, while some would plainly ignore my requests and take pictures anyway. When somebody insists or asks why -- not that I mind having this discussion -when they're not pointing a camera to my face -- all I hear is society +when they're not pointing a camera at my face -- all I hear is society reminding me that not wanting to appear on pictures isn't "normal". I can try to explain and justify this all I want, but the real issue here -isn't that I am saying no, it's that nobody hears that I am saying no. What we -really should be asking is why am I compelled to justify this behaviour for -others to accept it, and not for others to respect me saying "no". +isn't that I am saying no, it's that nobody listens. What we really should be +asking is why am I compelled to justify this behaviour to others in the first +place, instead of them simply respecting me saying "no". **Consent**, to name it, is to get a freely given "yes".