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@ -21,7 +21,7 @@ take pictures of me.
And despite saying all that, people kept teasing me about it, while some would And despite saying all that, people kept teasing me about it, while some would
plainly ignore my requests and take pictures anyway. plainly ignore my requests and take pictures anyway.
When somebody insists, or asks why -- not that I mind having this discussion When somebody insists or asks why -- not that I mind having this discussion
when they're not pointing a camera to my face -- all I hear is society when they're not pointing a camera to my face -- all I hear is society
reminding me that not wanting to appear on pictures isn't "normal". reminding me that not wanting to appear on pictures isn't "normal".
@ -30,18 +30,8 @@ isn't that I am saying no, it's that nobody hears that I am saying no. What we
really should be asking is why am I compelled to justify this behaviour for really should be asking is why am I compelled to justify this behaviour for
others to accept it, and not for others to respect me saying "no". others to accept it, and not for others to respect me saying "no".
**Consent**, to name it, is to ask for a freely given "yes", and not to assume. **Consent**, to name it, is to ask for a freely given "yes".
*Note that I am specifically talking about photographs here, which is an *Note that I am specifically talking about photographs here, which is an
issue I've had. I am sure non-able/white/cis/males have had many other issue I've had. I am sure non-able/white/cis/males have had many other
consent-related issues, and I can only sympathize.* consent-related issues, and I can only sympathize.*
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