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People often take photographs for granted. It does seem obvious in our society People often take photographs for granted. It does seem obvious in our society
that one likes to appear with their friend on Facebook, TikTok, what have you. that people like to appear with their friend on Facebook, TikTok, and what have
you.
Early on I started telling people I didn't want to have my picture taken. It Early on I started telling people I didn't want to have my picture taken. It
has never really been clear why, and to me either to be honest. It might have has never really been clear why, not even to myself to be honest. It might have
been out of shyness -- trait that is still ever so present -- or because I been out of shyness -- a trait that is still ever so present -- or because I
didn't like the looks of me on them, or any other reason. But I kept to it. didn't like the way I look in them, or perhaps some other reason. But I kept
telling them.
Growing up I started fiercely advocating for privacy and so this obviously As I grew up I started fiercely advocating for privacy and so this obviously
made it up the list of reasons. How would I know what people having access to made it up the list of reasons. How would I know what people having access to
this picture would do with the information that I was at a specific place at a this picture would do with the information that I was at a specific place at a
specific moment, or simply with my image. And I kept telling people not to specific moment, or what they would do with the image. And I kept telling
take pictures of me. people not to take pictures of me.
And despite saying all that, people kept teasing me about it, while some would And despite saying all that, people kept teasing me about it, while some would
plainly ignore my requests and take pictures anyway. plainly ignore my requests and take pictures anyway.
When somebody insists or asks why -- not that I mind having this discussion When somebody insists or asks why -- not that I mind having this discussion
when they're not pointing a camera to my face -- all I hear is society when they're not pointing a camera at my face -- all I hear is society
reminding me that not wanting to appear on pictures isn't "normal". reminding me that not wanting to appear on pictures isn't "normal".
I can try to explain and justify this all I want, but the real issue here I can try to explain and justify this all I want, but the real issue here
isn't that I am saying no, it's that nobody hears that I am saying no. What we isn't that I am saying no, it's that nobody listens. What we really should be
really should be asking is why am I compelled to justify this behaviour for asking is why am I compelled to justify this behaviour to others in the first
others to accept it, and not for others to respect me saying "no". place, instead of them simply respecting me saying "no".
**Consent**, to name it, is to get a freely given "yes". **Consent**, to name it, is to get a freely given "yes".